The Stockslager's Open Adoption Story
It all started in May 1997, while looking through the phone book we came across IAC’s ad. We called and within a few days we had our information packet. We went to our weekend intensive June 1997. After being there for the weekend we knew this was what we wanted to do to start the family that we always dreamed of and couldn’t wait to get started.
Our Birthmother letter went into “the book” October 1997. In December 1998 we got our first call from a Birthmother who lived in Wisconsin. We couldn’t believe it. We talked to her a few times on the phone, we even had a match meeting scheduled—but it didn’t happen. She was having some problems with her pregnancy and was unsure of her decision on adoption. Of course we were upset, but we knew in our hearts that it just wasn’t meant to be.
On May 7th, 1999 just when we were about to give up hope we got our call from our Birthmother, Amy. From the very start we knew she was the one. We instantly felt a connection with her and she with us. She wasn’t due until December 1st, so we knew it was going to be a long waiting period. We scheduled our match meeting, but before we went Amy had a wonderful idea that we meet before so we wouldn’t be seeing each other for the first time when we went to pick her up for our meeting. This worked out great; it gave us a chance to get comfortable with each other and made our match meeting a piece of cake.
Through the months of waiting for our baby to be born we continued to talk to Amy on the phone and we would also go and visit her. We even met her other children, mother and grandmother. It was also great to see all the support she received from her family and friends of her decision.
On October 31st Amy called us from the hospital telling us she was in labor. We made it to the hospital in about 2 hours, thanks to Chad’s driving. It was a long night; we were in labor for 12 long hours. On November 1st, 1999 at 7:33 am our beautiful daughter was born. We were able to be there for everything. We cared for our daughter the whole time we were in the hospital and even visited each other’s room.
We will always cherish the times we spent with Amy, and she will always hold a special place in our hearts. She gave us our dream come true, without her we wouldn’t have our beautiful daughter today. We do occasionally talk on the phone and I write and send pictures. We left all contact up to her, she knows that we are here when she needs us. We also say thank you to the IAC for all the support and hard work you gave to us from the very beginning of our adoption journey.
Chad and Kitty Stockslager