Comments on: Why Open Adoption Agreements?

By: Cherit50

Cherit50 — Tue, 16 Oct 2012 22:55:00 +0000

I read your post and truly understand. My daughter placed a beautiful, little boy in the arms of a wonderful couple. (They were present at his birth,as was I) The open adoption was not in writing, just a verbal agreement of pictures and much contact through every year. That was 7 years ago, the last two years none of us, including my daughter (birthmother) even received a Christmas card. We’ve never missed his birthday or Christmas, but never hear a thank you from them until they are called to see if the packages arrived. It hurts me, but my poor daughters heart breaks often. She does get a text msg. from the adopted mom on rare occasions, but that’s about it. My last picture of him was years ago. What’s wrong people? I don’t get it? These seemed like wonderful, loving, Christian people…and I think they are all those things, yet how can they forget the woman who gave them their son? Sorry for the rant…just needed to vent this afternoon. Wish there was a forum where the birth family could all get together and vent…do you know of any? I pray God will give you much comfort until the day you can finally hold your son in your arms…my daughter lives for that day.

By: Mikki4

Mikki4 — Sun, 27 Mar 2011 21:00:00 +0000

My adoption was an open adoption , I have suffered much anger and pain from the adoptive mother. She promised me verbaly back in 1986-1987 to send me letters and photos of my son, and at 9mn of age she stopped saying she didn’t feel like she could be a mother to the baby when she had to keep in contact with me. So she stopped. How heart breaking that is for me today and for the past 24 yrs. I was unselfish enough to give her something she could not do on her own, and she responded this way. How dare her. My advice to anyone going through an open adoption is to yes make sure you get any agreements in wrighting as I did not.

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