http://www.adoptionhelp.org/blog/2011/midlife-parenting/ Thu, 09 May 2013 18:00:34 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.4.1 http://www.adoptionhelp.org/blog/2011/midlife-parenting/comment-page-1/#comment-643 Michelle Keyes Thu, 01 Dec 2011 17:03:00 +0000 http://adoptionhelp.org/blog/?p=944#comment-643 Thank you for sharing and being honest with us!  It's great to hear the reality in your story. Thank you for sharing and being honest with us!  It’s great to hear the reality in your story.

]]> http://www.adoptionhelp.org/blog/2011/midlife-parenting/comment-page-1/#comment-627 Wendy Sustachek Thu, 24 Nov 2011 02:18:00 +0000 http://adoptionhelp.org/blog/?p=944#comment-627 Thank you.  I keep getting told my my physician that now would be better than later for the adoption to happen.  Well, yes, at 40 it would be optimal, especially since my husband is almost 53.  However, for whatever reason out there, it has not happened yet, and we enter our 5th year waiting for our chance to be parents.  I am not worried about our abilities to parent.  I figure if I can keep up with a classroom of 30 kindergartners, I can keep up with one child.  I see in you, and your comments on the positives, what I see in myself - the knowledge that I am more than ready to be selfless, I have much more patience now than even 10 years ago when we first got married even, and I know how I am going to approach a lot of the "big questions" that my child approaches me with, which is a truthful age-appropriate answer.  We know that we're older, but we also know we're a lot more stable now than when we were young, and we consider this a plus.  We hope that there is a birthmother out there somewhere that also sees this. Thank you.  I keep getting told my my physician that now would be better than later for the adoption to happen.  Well, yes, at 40 it would be optimal, especially since my husband is almost 53.  However, for whatever reason out there, it has not happened yet, and we enter our 5th year waiting for our chance to be parents.  I am not worried about our abilities to parent.  I figure if I can keep up with a classroom of 30 kindergartners, I can keep up with one child.  I see in you, and your comments on the positives, what I see in myself – the knowledge that I am more than ready to be selfless, I have much more patience now than even 10 years ago when we first got married even, and I know how I am going to approach a lot of the “big questions” that my child approaches me with, which is a truthful age-appropriate answer.  We know that we’re older, but we also know we’re a lot more stable now than when we were young, and we consider this a plus.  We hope that there is a birthmother out there somewhere that also sees this.

]]> http://www.adoptionhelp.org/blog/2011/midlife-parenting/comment-page-1/#comment-626 John Kusters Wed, 23 Nov 2011 17:29:00 +0000 http://adoptionhelp.org/blog/?p=944#comment-626 Thank you for this. As my partner and I go through the beginning stages of adoption, also at age 45, being "too old" is constantly on our minds. Advice we've gotten from friends: Do as much as we can now to prepare for the worst (trusts, life insurance, back-up parents, wills), then stop worrying about it. We're working on it, but it's not going to be easy to stop worrying. :-) Thank you for this. As my partner and I go through the beginning stages of adoption, also at age 45, being “too old” is constantly on our minds. Advice we’ve gotten from friends: Do as much as we can now to prepare for the worst (trusts, life insurance, back-up parents, wills), then stop worrying about it. We’re working on it, but it’s not going to be easy to stop worrying.

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