The Open Adoption Hospital Plan

Why is it important to create a hospital plan in an open adoption? What should adoptive and birthparents prepare for?

New mom and baby in hospitalLast week, IAC’s Dr. Jennifer Bliss joined the Creating a Family radio show to discuss the different issues and concerns that a good hospital plan can help to address.

Dr. Bliss was joined by Rebecca Vahle, who runs an adoption support program at Parker Adventist hospital in Colorado. Together they discussed issues such as:

  • The training hospital social workers usually get around adoption, whether or not it is sufficient.
  • How adoptive parents might be treated at the hospital: are they welcome or not?
  • Hospital nurses reactions to adoption plans.
  • Accommodations in the hospital for both birth and adoptive parents.

And this is just the tip of the iceberg. Due in large part to the common misconceptions about adoption, there are a myriad of issues that can come up during the birth and hospital stay. The best way to prepare for this is to have a hospital plan in effect and to make sure hospital staff are aware of this plan. Nurses, doctors, and social workers are obviously doing what they think is right so, when that comes into conflict with the needs of the adoptive or birth parents, a little information and a plan can go a long way. Of course, having a reputable and capable adoption agency in your corner will be helpful if and when any potential problems arise.

I encourage you to check out the entire Creating a Family radio show at this link.

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  • happy adoptive parent

    I went through a reclaim before adopting my beautiful little girl who is now almost 4. The difference between the two experiences really started in the hospital although there were red flags with the birthmother throughout our interactions. In the reclaim, we as adoptive parents were treated very differently in the hospital, almost like intruders. Also, the birthmother didn’t want to solidify a hospital plan as to who would hold the baby first and where the baby would sleep etc. She was very vague. This led to so much confusion on both parts and eventually she decided she couldn’t go through with it. On the other hand, when I adopted my daughter, her birthmother was very specific as to how she wanted things to go. She had mapped it out in her mind and obviously was planning on placing wholeheartedly. If you experience a birthmother who is very vague about the hospital plan when matching, I would take it as a red flag that she’s not ready mentally to commit.

  • Thank you for sharing!

    Your story underlines another reason counseling is so important in an adoption: it helps expectant mothers to process their feelings and figure out the option that’s going to work best for them. Ultimately, this helps significantly reduce the number of reclaims.

  • jodyandtonyadopt

    The link above has a 403 error…

  • Thank you! I’ve updated the links.

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