Editor’s Note: The following is a guest post by IAC’s hopeful adoptive parents, Jason Hedden & Danny Yuska, writing for their one Christmas wish.
I know it has been years since my last letter in which I requested He-Man action figures and a Cabbage Patch Kid. You always came through for me as a child and now as an adult I’m seeking your help once again. Through all the commercialism of the holiday, I have never stopped believing in your spirit and I know it resides in all of us.
My husband, Danny, and I have been married legally now for over three years. We both agreed early on in our relationship that we want a large family. We both come from large families and together we have seven nephews and two nieces who we love and adore very much. In watching our siblings’ families we’ve decided to take the step toward open adoption.
This has been a long journey in the making. We spent one year researching different agencies, visiting their offices and reading anything we could get our hands on. We felt best connected to the Independent Adoption Center and their philosophy surrounding open adoption. We fully understand that “openness” is different in every match and ours won’t be defined until that moment. But, we know the vital importance of openness and how everyone involved benefits.
After selecting the IAC we spent another five months filling out mounds and mounds of paperwork, hours spent on our Adoption Letter, references and home-studies, and vast amounts of reading and parenting classes. We have overly exposed our iheartadoption webpage to all our friends, associates and clients to help maximize our exposure – I’m certain we’ve been unfriended. We simply want the universe to know we are out here to be found.
Kris, this brings me to the point of my letter. Danny and I have only one Christmas wish this year. We are asking for an expectant mother to come into our lives and create a match. If a mother finds that adoption is the route they decide to go down, we are asking that you point them our way. Let them know that there is a large loving family waiting to greet them with open arms. Grandmothers and grandfathers, vast amount of aunts, uncles, and cousins are awaiting their arrival. Our lovable little pup, Linus and his sister, Snooki the Cat are anxious as well to have another member they can love upon unconditionally. This, too, is their Christmas wish.
Typically this time of year our home is decorated fully for the season – trees, wreaths, lights, ornaments and figurines – both classy and tacky. However, this year we have made a conscious decision to forego the event now and until you bring into our life a little bundle of joy. When that happens, we will decorate and celebrate so over the top it’ll feel like the North Pole right in our home. We will live up to our old motto: Too much is too much, but way too much is just right!!
In the meantime, we are taking advice from our agency and other adoptive parents and we are traveling. We are going to spend the week of Christmas in Puerto Rico with friends to help take our minds off the holiday and that one piece that is missing. Although, nothing would make us happier than having to cancel our trip because you granted our Christmas wish and brought an addition into our family this season.
I know contained within your powers is the ability to make this happen. In our efforts to grow a large family, we must start with one. And, we are wishing you could bring that one to us very soon.
Please send our regards to Mrs. Claus and all the others. Have a very Merry Christmas.