Dana's Story: What a Precious Gift
My name is Dana, and I am proud to be a nineteen-year-old birthmother. When I discovered I was pregnant, I was very scared and confused. The birthfather and I talked about our options. He knows I am pro-life, so he didn't even suggest abortion. We both agreed that adoption was the best decision. I called my parents from school (University of Nevada at Reno), to tell them this life-changing news. They were very supportive of my decision and my mother suggested living with a friend in Sacramento so I could have my privacy. Living with my friend didn't work out, but my friend suggested a local maternity home, which was such a blessing. Lenore, the house-mother, helped me come back to my faith and grow in many ways.
A good friend of mine told me about a couple that was looking to adopt. We went to dinner and a movie and immediately became friends. They gave me the number for the Independent Adoption Center and urged me to call. The people at the Center were very friendly and helpful.
They sent me numerous letters from prospective parents. I selected three, including the first couple I met through my friend, and met with them all. I had a good feeling about the first couple, but I wanted to be absolutely sure they were the right people to raise my child. After meeting the other couples, I knew that the first couple were the ones. The day I called to tell them the good news was July 11th, the adoptive father's birthday! I knew it was meant to be. I had a lot of support from my family, friends, Lenore, my Independent Adoption Center counselor and, of course, the adoptive parents. I never doubted that the best thing for my little one was to be placed with this wonderful couple.
They visited me often and were there in the delivery room along with my parents and Lenore, who was my coach. It was the most beautiful day of my life. My son was born on October 24, 1996, at 8:45 a.m. and was seven pounds, ten ounces. We all went back to the maternity home the next day for Mass and Lenore blessed my little baby boy with holy oil. As I kissed his tiny, perfect cheek, I shed only tears of joy at having completed someone's family. What a precious gift!
It's truly amazing how things worked out. God has blessed me bountifully and I know it was His will. I thank God for my son. He saved my life. During my pregnancy I made a vow of chastity and turned my life toward God. I have started a "True Love Waits" Club at my university and I couldn't have matured so much without the support of the counseling I received through the Independent Adoption Center and a pregnancy center that helped me, too.
The adoptive parents and I talk on the phone and they tell me how healthy and happy Davis, Jr. is. They send me pictures regularly and I am secure in the knowledge that he is being brought up by beautiful people. I wrote my son a letter explaining why I chose adoption for him and telling him that if he wishes to see me, I would enjoy nothing more than to sit and talk with him when he is ready.
Now that everything has worked out so beautifully, I have no reservations about sharing the story of my son and how he changed my life for the better. I also make a point of saying how wonderful open adoption is. My family and I have become good friends with the adoptive parents. I also thank God for the Independent Adoption Center and for open adoption.