LGBT Adoption

LGBTQ Adoption

Welcome Future Adoptive Families

We are glad you are considering the Independent Adoption Center as you explore options to expand your family. The IAC has a long and proud tradition of working with lesbian, gay male, bisexual and transgender (LGBT) families in their quest to adopt, and every year our numbers grow stronger.

The IAC, along with experts in childhood development, agree that a loving and supportive family is the most important ingredient when it comes to good parenting. Research has demonstrated that sexual orientation; gender identity or expression does not affect a person’s ability to parent.

What sort of birth family will choose an LGBT family?

The answer is all types. The birth family's reasons for picking an adoptive family are as personal and specific to those birthparents and their families as picking any couple. You may remind a birthmother of her brother whom she loves dearly, or remind birthfather of a beloved aunt. Birthparents may or may not have a direct connection with the LGBT community at all. The only thing we can say for sure is that the birthparents are open to placing their baby with LBGT families.

How should an LGBT family present themselves in their birthparent literature?

The answer to this question is the same for all of our prospective adoptive families: present yourself authentically. Show the types of relationships you have with your spouse or partner (if partnered), your family, and your community. One of the most important things to a birthparent is finding a family that is loving, caring, genuine and believes in open adoption.

Benefits of Choosing the IAC for an LGBT Adoption
  • We educate birthparents about LGBT parenting whenever possible.
  • We send all LGBT family profiles to birthparents unless they specifically ask us not to.
  • We include LGBT parenting terminology in our Google advertising campaign.
  • We provide lifetime membership to our LGBT online support group.

Should you not find what you are looking for on these pages, our professional counseling staff is waiting to answer your questions. Please give us a call at 800.877.OPEN.

Same Sex Couples Adoption FAQ

  • Can my partner and I both adopt?

    Yes, in most cases you may both adopt. Please read the answer to the next question for more detailed information on this topic.

  • If the birthmother lives in a state that bans adoption by same sex couples, will we be able to adopt?

    There are only two states where no LGBT family may adopt: Mississippi and Utah. Some states will not allow you to adopt as a couple, but will allow the adoption if the home study and interstate paperwork is submitted as a single parent adoption. This is only possible if you are not legally married, except in North Carolina, which refuses to recognize same sex marriages in other states, and therefore treats all married same sex partners as if they are single.

  • Are there any states that prohibit lesbians and gay men from adopting?

    Yes. At this time both Mississippi and Utah prohibit adoptions by lesbians and gay men, whether or not they are part of couple so there is no legal way for a same-sex couple or single gay man or lesbian to adopt a baby born in those states, nor to adopt from another state if they are residents of Mississippi or Utah. Please note, that the laws regarding gay male and lesbian adoption change frequently. The best source for current information is the Human Rights Campaign web site at:

  • Does it take gay male and lesbian couples longer than heterosexual couples to adopt?

    No. Our gay male and lesbian couples average the same wait time as heterosexual couples do to adopt. Often there is a preconceived notion that there is a longer wait time for gay male and lesbian couples but this has never proven to be true.

  • How long does it take to adopt?

    On average, our clients wait 15 months for a placement. For detailed information about wait times please see Adoption Statistics at the IAC.

Transgender Partner(s) Adoption FAQ

Single LGBT Adoption FAQ

IAC is an HRC Recognized Leader in Supporting and Serving LGBT Families