In a private adoption where the birth mom seeks out the couple(2 women). Birth father agrees. In turn a lawyer is attained for all legal aspects. Would a background check and homestudy still apply? And would a judge have to be seen?

The same rules apply to a private adoption as any other sort of adoption. You could hire either an adoption attorney or an agency to handle the necessary paperwork. A home study is required for any type of adoption done in the United States. All home studies required a background check. Finally, the adoption finalization is completed by a judge with the child and adoptive parents present.